Since I'm all about strengthening our family trees, it is fitting that we acknowledge some holiday distress and talk about the holiday dynamics that can come up in our real life, face-to-face "Family Trees". Ali Brown gives permission to reprint her Holiday Survival guide when her personal information is included following her comments. I appreciate her insight. I hope you will, too.
"Holiday Survival Guide: How to Cope with Your Imperfect Family"
Submitted by Ali
Brown on December 2, 2010 - 8:06am
Holidays are supposed to be times of great joy. Doe-eyed children, glittering decorations, and warm family moments are on display everywhere in films, cards and commercials, and it’s hard not to want to recreate these fictitious scenes in our own lives.
But for most of us, being reunited with our families can bring up a lot of old stuff. And, if you aren’t well armed with a sense of humor before the family starts pouring through the front door, anger and despair from old hurts might swallow your holiday cheer. Here are a few pointers for handling your family with style and grace this holiday season. Hang in there!
Manage your expectations
Greet them warmly
Pick your battles
Like everything else in life, family time is sprinkled with warm moments and frustrating ones. If the tree didn’t fall over at least once and the dog didn’t chase Aunt Susie’s cat across the dining room table, then you’d be left with nothing to talk about other than Uncle Harold’s gallbladder. After all, the best memories are the -- well, memorable ones!
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